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Finding God in the Middle of the Mess
Ever felt like your whole life is unraveling at the seams? Like no matter how hard you try, things just keep getting worse? Sometimes it feels like God Himself is testing you, or even forcing you to suffer. If that’s you right now, asking yourself “why does God make me suffer” or “My life is falling apart, God why?” first—take a deep breath. You are not alone.
I’ve been there too. In fact, some days I still feel like I live there. But I promise you, God is working, even when all you see is chaos.
When It Feels Like God Is Testing You
The Bible doesn’t hide the fact that life is hard. Job lost nearly everything. Joseph was thrown into a pit by his own brothers. Even Paul spent a lot of time in prison. Yet each story shows us that suffering is not the end—it’s the setup for God’s glory.
James 1:2–3 tells us:
“My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.”
That doesn’t mean we have to be thrilled about suffering (I don’t know anyone who wakes up excited for a trial). But it does mean that there’s a purpose behind the pain. Trials stretch us, refine us, and grow our faith in ways comfort never could.
My Own Life Falling Apart Moments
I’ll be honest. I’ve had plenty of days where I didn’t feel strong at all. Days where anxiety and depression made it hard just to get out of bed. For a long time, social anxiety convinced me I couldn’t function like a “normal” person. I thought jobs, friendships, and relationships would always be impossible for me.
There were nights when money was so tight I didn’t know how I’d make it. Right now, I live in a shed. Yep, a shed. But you know what? God still provides. I have food, I have clothes, and most importantly, I have Him.
One of the verses that has carried me through the darkest moments is Matthew 6:34:
“Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.”
That verse literally kept me alive when I felt suicidal, when I thought I couldn’t face tomorrow. God reminded me: just make it through today. And here I am—still standing, still trusting, still walking with Him.
Why Does God Let Us Suffer?
This is the big question, isn’t it? If God loves us, why let us suffer?
Romans 8:28 gives us the answer:
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”
That doesn’t mean all things are good. Pain isn’t good. Anxiety isn’t good. Poverty isn’t good. But God takes even the bad things and weaves them into a bigger plan that ends with good.
Looking back, I can see how my hardest seasons built strength in me. They also made me lean on God more deeply. Without them, I don’t think my bond with Him would be as strong.
It’s Not Punishment, It’s Refining
Sometimes it feels like God is punishing us, but that’s not what trials are. Hebrews 12:6 says:
“For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.”
Chastening isn’t about cruelty. It’s about shaping us, like a father raising a child. God loves us too much to leave us unchanged.
So no, your suffering isn’t wasted. God is refining you, drawing you closer, and preparing you for what’s next.
What You Can Do When Life Feels Like It’s Falling Apart
- Pray, even if it’s messy. God doesn’t need fancy words—He wants your heart.
- Open your Bible. Even one verse a day can steady you.
- Find gratitude in the small things. A warm meal, a hug, a roof over your head—those are blessings.
- Lean on others. Iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17). You don’t have to carry it alone.
- Remember this isn’t forever. God’s promises are eternal.
A Prayer for Hard Times
Heavenly Father,
When everything feels like it’s falling apart, remind me that You hold all things together. Strengthen me when I am weak, comfort me when I am afraid, and guide me when I don’t know what to do. Help me to trust that even in suffering, You are working for my good. Thank You for providing for me, even in small ways, and for carrying my burdens when they are too heavy for me to bear. Draw me closer to You each day, and let me live in the hope of Your promises.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
If your life feels like it’s unraveling, please don’t give up. God is still writing your story, and He isn’t finished yet.
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